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How We Try to Control Others

Updated: Apr 21


We spend a lot of time & energy trying to get others to conform to our ideals. Especially when we are placed in a role that asks us to supervise - parent, teacher, preacher, etc.


Letting go of punishments/rewards, guilt/praise, buddying/isolating, an monitoring may not be easy but it is imperative to your success.


 

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